Sunday, 21 March 2010

Sore Throat

Well would you have believed it I've had the worst sore throat since last Thursday and I've lost my voice........
Gander says it's getting too quiet now as I've been with out my voice since Friday.

We are hoping that my voice returns before Tuesday that's when Sue our SW is coming for our first visit, and we are hoping that we will be told if we can go further with our adoption application and get on to a prep course.

I look forward to posting good news on Tuesday Evening

Goose and Gander
xx ;-)

Monday, 15 March 2010

Phone Call

Today while at work i got a phone call from Sue our SW.
I was so excited to hear from her i dropped the phone twice lol.
Well we had a little bit of a chat, she sounds so nice on the phone . She is coming round for our initial visit next Tuesday on the 23 march 2010.

When i put the phone down i wanted to tell every one but i was on my own. Gander had just left for a meeting at work and my business partner was on lunch........

Then business partner came back and i was cutting so did not get to speak to her.

Then at 4.50 Gander came to pick me up (we are a one car family at moment) so i got to tell him.
I could not help it but i started to cry and i could not stop myself.

So we can't wait to meet Sue face to face and welcoming her in to our home and our lives.

Goose and Gander
xx ;-)

Wednesday, 10 March 2010

Well well well. i was only moaning the other day that we had not herd anything yet.........

Well Gander phoned me at work today WE GOT THE LETTER......

We have been allocated a SW and her name is SUE. The letter just states that she will be in touch shortly to make mutually convenient date for us. For our initial visit.

Some other news have been in contact with business link about adoption pay ( Was just fact finding ) and it turns out that self employed people do not qualify for Adoption Pay. But we do qualify for statutory maternity pay. This was a big shock to us both.

Some good news though is that our shop is one years old this coming Friday 12/03/10 and we are having a party lol.

Will keep informing of progress.

Goose
xx ;-)

Sunday, 7 March 2010

Nothing to Report

Nothing to report.................
Well it has been 3 since we received our letter to say that we can go to next stage.
That a social worker will be allocated to us and we be in touch.

We know that in SW's world this is probably on a mini second.
it how ever feels that we have been left out on a limb and forgotten.

We are still reading and feel that all we can read now is books of adoption that you read to children after they are adopted.

I have read one book called a boy called it well that is really heart wrenching.

Goose xx;-)

Monday, 22 February 2010

Book of choice

Book of choice;
Well after the last two post that i have made i picked up a book for the collection of adoption books and it is called Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew.
Well i have only got to page 45 so far but what a brilliant book.
It brings every thing into prospective and the feeling you are having are the ones the chicks want you to have and to talk about their birth families .
Sorry just Rambling now.
Just thought I'd post about the book, next post should be when we get letter about initial visit from SW. I'll keep reading and keep fingers crossed for all

Goose and Gander xx ;-)

Sunday, 21 February 2010

Well it has started:
We have received our first letter from LA stating that they had got our letter that we had to send to say that we wished to continue with the adoption enquiry.
Our LA gave us form's to sign on Tuesday to say that we had 1 month to say if we wanted to continue with the adoption enquiry.
They also gave us a questionaire which asks which sort of children would you accecpt. It certly has opened our eyes .
So on Tuesday we sent our reply;
So yesterday our letter from LA thanked us for attending meeting and also for replying so quickly. They also say that they are pleased to tell us that they are taking us to the next step of adoption.
All we have to do is wait for a SW to be allocated to us for our initial visit.
we got so excited about it can't wait for next letter.

We would also like to say that we have been thinking very hard about the contact issue that has concerned us.
We have said that if it would benefit our chicks to see us in a picture with their birth family then what is wrong with that it will show our chicks that we are thinking of them and that we had met their birth family.
with the other issue of direct contact on a yearly base's then all i can say on that is that depends on the chick/s to weather it would benefit them. All we want is the best for the chick/s.

We want to wish all the best for Mary and Mungo for next week 3rd March 2010 hope all goes well, We are thinking of you

Goose xx ;-)

Thursday, 18 February 2010

WOW WHAT A MEETING

Well it was "D" day on Tuesday,

Well there where 11" house holds" love the way they speak.. The meeting was very informal and quite relaxed most of the time.
We went through why children come in to care and what there thoughts on this might be.
which took about an hour and half. then we had a break which was very welcome by all ......

When we came back we had time to ask questions about what was said before and our feelings on this.

We then went on to the adoption triangle and had to guess what each where feeling. Which Gander and i found very interesting as where what we thought. we spent about an hour on this.

Then came the not so relaxed part the 2 ladies given us this information said, that we needed to think about what sort of contact we could deal with and they tried very hard to push open adoption's, to the fact that she said could we all consider weather we could meet birth parents and have photo's to put in chicks life story book......( I can say with my hand on heart that I'm not comfortable with this)
but it is not for my comfort i know that it is for our chicks.

By this time my head was well and truly banging. LOL

Gander and i did speak to one of the ladies SW's.
We told her about LA in 1999 and that we where turned down, she did say that when we get our initial SW visit they will be asking for our file from LA.
Then she said that it doesn't seem to be a problem but that was not a grantee.

So Gander and i came home a bit happy yet bit sad, and we talked loads.
We have come to the conclusion that if this new LA Say's no sorry even at this early stage, that will be it.
We have been together for almost 20 years and married for 17 years and have been trying to get pregnant via different fertility hospitals and a very bad miscarriage of twins.
and in 1999 we went through adoption.
So if they so NO sorry then we are saying OK thank you for visiting us. And it is your loss and we will walk away and still be a happy couple.

This is why it is now Thursday before i had posted.

Goose ;-) xx